Feelings of Low Self-Esteem
Feelings of Low Self-Esteem Watch TV, read the newspaper, listen to the radio, or browse news sites on the Internet and you’ll quickly realize that the quantity of human failure and catastrophe one is exposed to is depressing.
If you are like me, you may find yourself avoiding these sources of news and “entertainment” because you can’t take the quantity of negativity that infiltrates your head and harmfully affects your energy state!
Not surprisingly, most of the negativity in the world is derived from individuals having an unhealthy, low level of self-esteem. path of growth enneagram type 9 self improvement
A shocking, comprehensive study reveals that over 85 percent of the world’s population has some kind of deficit in their level of self-esteem.
Low self-esteem produces emotions of pain, dissatisfaction, wrath, fear, procrastination, irritation, shyness, and incapability.
This variety of negative thinking processes and feelings leads individuals to seek artificial methods to cover up their lack of confidence by taking on forced or unnatural actions.
Three of the most frequent methods of covering up a poor self-image, reduced self-esteem, and low confidence levels are:
1) Forced and unhealthy communication
Forced acts of communication are ways we connect with one other in an unnatural and harmful manner.
Examples of unproductive communication may include excessive rage, shouting or harsh words, or making unfair or unproductive comments.
All too often, when we feel uncomfortable in social settings or fear being dominated by another, we attempt to get the upper hand by dominating the other person in some way.
For example, your partner may make a comment that you allow to lead you to feel bad about yourself or be assaulted in some manner.
(The words of another can never adversely affect our self-esteem until we allow them to do so.)
Most of the time, we respond to what someone says when they bring up something we can not be with about how we view ourselves.
This reactionary emotion is all too frequently a symptom of a decreased self-esteem.
As a consequence of feeling threatened, you may respond with an aggressive or angry comment of your own.
Before long, you have inadvertently started a downward cycle in communication that will certainly damage your relationship over time.
Lacking self-esteem also affects all other aspects of life.
Additional examples include fear of public speaking, ineffective professional communication, pursuing a carrier that is not in alignment with one’s passions and life purpose, dating or even marrying people that do not match up well with our most important values because we fear we may not attract our ideal partner, and bringing up children to be fear-based, reactive, or unhealthy in their perceptions of the world and in their relationships with others.
2) Sleeping Excessively to Escape from Reality
Do you know anybody who “sleeps their time away?”
For many individuals, sleeping is a means to escape their unpleasant emotions of incapability, dread, discomfort, unworthiness, and weakness.
These emotions originate from the perception that one is somehow unlovable or not good enough and are eventually the consequence of poor self-esteem levels.
They deplete our vitality and create internal friction that makes us weary.
They also result in making us desire to flee such circumstances instead of dealing with them acceptably and efficiently.
For many individuals, napping is the simplest getaway rather than learning to confront life’s difficulties.
Sleeping is a method of recovery — thus upon waking, all difficulties may be dealt with more readily with new energy.
However many individuals don’t utilize sleep for the goal of replenishing energy.
They dull their anguish with ‘chronic sleeping’ as an escape from reality.
As an escape tactic, issues stay ignored and unsolved and thus tend to grow worse with time.
3) Use of Alcohol, Drugs, and Cigarettes
As an attentive observer of people’s coping methods note how frequently so many seek ways to numb the pain rather than confront the root of their problems.
Many find comfort in smokes as a stress reliever.
The underlying cause of mental stress and physical tension is frequently decreased self-esteem.
So frequently, individuals train themselves to resort to drink or drugs after encountering a traumatic experience.
Rather than deal with the reasons for life’s disappointments, relationship difficulties, or poor communication, it’s frequently simpler to seek methods to forget about the problems by resorting to drinking, cigarettes, and drugs.
Of course, these harmful ways of avoiding the unpleasant emotions that are produced by low confidence, a negative self-image, and poor self-esteem frequently result in compounded health and social problems of their own.
In addition to their detrimental bodily consequences, drugs and alcohol increase unpleasant emotions and therefore result in more destructive conduct.
In this manner, they compound the already existing problems and result in a deteriorating, vicious cycle of increasing proportions.
Low self-esteem is most frequently the source of these harmful and escape-seeking activities.
Rather than disconnect from or try to escape the difficulties brought on by a bad self-image and low self-confidence, there is a more efficient approach to live a more powerful, happier, and more rich life – simply by raising one’s level of self-esteem.
After working directly with hundreds of coaching clients in the last 15 years, I have discovered a powerful but basic and easy-to-implement method for increasing one’s self-esteem.
The entire process of healing one’s painful past, accurately assessing one’s current situation, and proactively designing the future in choice can be found in the step-by-step self-study program entitled, “The Self-Esteem Book: The Ultimate Guide to Boost the Most Underrated Ingredient for Success and Happiness in Life.”
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